Frequently Asked Questions
What is your name?
Mr. Fox is an abbreviation of my full legal name and M.R.F are my initials. I understand it may seem strange to only go by Fox or Mr. Fox, as this is not very common outside of Queer and alternative spaces, except for celebrities or artists and I am neither. I share my full legal name with everyone I work with before we start working if they really want to know and ask that you respect my desire to be identified by names that feel genuine and good to me.
Why do you talk about pronouns, sexuality, intersectionality and social justice instead of just mental health?
I believe that all of those impact our mental health and it’s important to acknowledge they exist and how they may impact interactions and power dynamics in communication and decision making. Also, as a white, cis-male, I want to help people get used to asking about and identifying their own pronouns and thinking about how aspects of race, gender, ability, weight, economic status, and other socially constructed norms impact us and our mental health.
Who can work with you?
Anyone who is over the age of 18 with access to the internet and video calls can work with me. I am also comfortable working with adolescents (10-18) as long as parents provide written consent and are appropriately involved.
Who are your “favorite” clients?
I both like and struggle with this question which is all the more reason why I share it here. The idea of a favorite client type can be complicated for a variety of reasons. My short answer, I love working with anyone who is wanting to prioritize their mental health and make changes in their life. For a longer answer, schedule a free call.
What areas/communities do you specialize in/have significant experience with?
- Everyday adult’s mental health & life transitions
- Every day adolescent mental health & life transitions
- Men’s mental health
- 2SLGBTQIA+ mental health
- Neurodiversity and the Autism Spectrum
- Executive dysfunction, follow-through, and consistency
- Intellectual disabilities, accommodations, and IEP processes
- Mental health intersectionality and social justice
- Self-acceptance, advocacy, and empowerment
- Mindfulness, meditation, and compassion for self and others
- Relationship communication and dynamics
- Nonmonogamy, polyamory, and open relationships+
- Parent & coparenting topics
- Family systems and in-home structure
- Conflict management, resolution, and prevention
- Anger & high-stress management
- Contingency management and preventative planning
- Sex-positive & sex work communities
- Intimacy, sexuality, and consent
- Chronic illness
- Individuals who have negative past experiences with inappropriate/abusive mental health providers
Who/what do you not work with?
- Moderate to severe disordered eating
- Children under 10, it’s hard to make that connection via video call
- Active/ongoing crisis and physical safety issues- requires a clinician to be actively involved
- Cases that are too complex to be properly served by a mental health coach alone and need clinical involvement/intervention.
Do you accept insurance?
Most insurance companies don’t like covering clinical mental health and are even more critical of mental health coaching. That said, I always recommend submitting a superbill with documentation for the need of services and see what if anything can be reimbursed.
What are your rates?
I tend to work with monthly packages instead of hourly rates due to the fact that I actively give a lot of time and support that I do not bill for. I work on a sliding fee scale with a discounted rate for BIPOC and 2SLGBTQIA+ people. I strongly believe that if cost is a significant stressor, it will impact and distract from the work we do together. I prefer to advocate for a higher frequency of hours over a higher hourly rate. Rates and services are tailored to each individual client and can be better estimated in/after a free call.
How long do services take?
You can answer that question more accurately than I can because that honestly depends most on you. When thinking about how long this service may take, I like to explain it partially like a stoplight or an old red-yellow-green dial/gauge (often seen in a movie connected to something that shouldn’t go too fast or too slow or get too hot or blow up).
Most of us have goals that we would put in the green zone, they are big, they are positive, and they are changes that we believe we are ready to make like hitting the gas when the traffic light turns green. But before we can get to green and hit the gas, before we can go, we need to make sure we’re at baseline or neutral (yellow) and have 4 working tires and an engine that runs. Before we can really get into being at baseline or moving slowly, we have to triage, repair, and replace whatever has us stuck/stalled/flat in the red. Then even once we do all that, great results are greatest when they’re repeated consistently, and that in itself takes practice, support, and repetition as well
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
Traditionally speaking, coaching tends to be more focused on current experiences and future goals as opposed to working through past experiences and past trauma. That said, a good coach will use many similar skills, approaches, and communication styles as a good therapist because both roles are heavily about holding space. I also can say after the last 12 years of doing this work, I know just as many therapists who make me cringe as coaches who sound like used car salesmen. That said, I will always encourage clients to meet with a therapist whenever it is clinically relevant and am always happy to help clients find said therapist if they don’t have one already.
Do you offer therapy?
I do not offer therapy and coaching is not a replacement for medication management and/or psychotherapy from a licensed clinician. I do offer Search and Support services for those looking for help while navigating the clinical insurance process of finding a therapist. I also am extremely happy to work with therapists already involved and or help bring therapists onto the team whenever the client is interested.
When you were working as a therapist, what frameworks did you/do you still prefer?
- Big fan of the “4B’s”, Bandura, Bowen, Bowlby, and Bronfenbrenner
- Acceptance & Commitment
- Motivational Interviewing
- Internal Family Systems
- Narrative approaches
- Cognitive Behavioral
- Solution-focused when client wanted
- Blackfoot/Maslow in looking at collectivism/individualism
- Health At Every Size (HAES)
- Versions of ABA that focus on identifying behavioral antecedents and contextual triggers to better explain the process when needed, while embracing and empowering autistic clients to advocate, find community, and fight for policy change when needed instead of masking.